thanks everyone, she hasnt got internet yet but when im over with her tomorrow i will surely show her this, she's feeding both @ the same time, the H.V advised that she tops them up with formular milk at night. she has done this but isnt happy to do it often, she isnt overly keen on expressing either i have suggested this also.
she does have a partner...hmm well erm sort of..lol less said the better tbh...hes not much help with housework children etc, he supports her mentally but thats about it.
i visit as often as i can i have 7children, an live 8miles away an dont drive but i get to see her 3-4 times aweek i ring an text her daily, if she needs me i do go to them.
thank-you again guys