Posts by Ms. Vee

    Crosby, Stills and Nash tend to make their annual appearance in this house when summer starts crawling its way back.

    Although, summer is all about Joni for me :)

    Meh. The more people moan about the Olympics/jubilee the more I look forward to them. I dunno... I understand all the 'anti' sentiment and everything, but I'm bored of being angry about everything. There's more important things to fight against, I think. It's making some people happy - is that such an awful thing?

    When Catholic priests abuse children nobody brings the colour of their skin into it. Nobody even brings their often Irish nationality into it. That's because it comes about due to a culture of 'issues' (to put it mildly) regarding sexuality and gender. Repression breeds abuse, quite obviously. It's nothing to do with ethnicity.

    It's about culture, not race - and there's a big difference between the two. There are plenty of cultures within white British society that exploit people too.

    I'm shocked and quite upset by the judgmental and downright cruel posts in this thread. I would write a longer reply but it's 6am and I'm not with it much after being up all night with a poorly baby, but I just wanted to commend you for being so brave and honest. I can't begin to imagine how hard it's been for you, but i honestly think you're doing really well. Most young guys would have run a mile in your situation but you've been really strong. I admire you a lot. You'll get through this, I know you will. X

    I've never really considered House Rules before... It's all common sense and manners really. Although, when I think about it, I used to make huge posters when I was a kid detailing all of my very particular rules for my room. But then I was pretty pre-occupied with law and order when I was younger :p

    Katie, you look gorgeous. Pregnancy really suits you. :)

    Twister, your bump was big and brilliant!

    I loved having a bump... In fact, I loved being pregnant full-stop. :D

    I'm just finishing a degree in Social Science with the OU. It's been six years and difficult at times, but I've really enjoyed it. It means I've been able to work, move house and start a family all whilst studying at the same time. If you're able to manage your own time and have good self-discipline, then I'd recommend the OU. The tutors are generally pretty helpful and they run lots of tutorials, lectures, day schools, etc... (Although, I must say, I've never been to a single one) I can't wait to graduate this year!

    I did it a few times when I was younger, but I'm not really interested in ever doing it again. It was okay, but probably not worth the hassle. And now I'm older I realise I was probably only doing it so that I could keep up with a boyfriend's porn habit....and that's really not a good reason to do anything :(

    I'm a Ms., and have always considered myself to be one since becoming an adult. In my mind, Miss is for little girls just as Master is for little boys. I don't think I should advertise my relationship status with my name/title - after all, men don't.

    Unfortunately gender stereotypes start at birth. Dress a baby in pink and that baby will be treated differently if it was dressed in blue.
    Try stepping out of gender stereo types to find how society will treat you......
    Men publicly wearing dresses come to mind
    Men and women may have differences but there are many overlapping similarities - there are masculine men and women as well as feminine ones

    I've found it quite strange that when I dress Ivy in 'gender neutral' colours like white or beige that people assume she is a baby boy. It's as if neutral colours are the default and the default is male. :rolleyes:

    I'm sorry you have been having such a hard time, it can be really difficult. I wonder whether you would find it useful to talk your feelings through with someone? The national breastfeeding phoneline or the BFN phonelines are run by supporters who are well trained in talking and debriefing mum's experiences, and would not try to convince you to re start feeding, but rather be a supportive listening experience for you, if you feel it would be beneficial?

    Practically, if you are getting very full and sore, then I would suggest expressing. Because you were feeding lots and then just stopped it can mean that you do get engorgement and increase the risk of mastitis. If you expressed a few times during the day and gradually cut it down you may find you are more comfortable and its easier for you.

    I'm glad that you have made a decision you are happy with and are feeling better about things. She is beautiful.

    Thanks for the suggestions Uma, but I'm actually feeling a lot better emotionally and physically. I anticipated difficulties but it actually hasn't been as awful as I expected. I now know I made the right choice for my little family :)

    Thank you for the comments everyone. It really has been so helpful to hear of other womens' experiences and to know that I'm not alone. I haven't felt as much discomfort as I thought I would the last few days - I was in much more pain last week before I stopped feeding. The leaking seems to have calmed down and I seem to have avoided the painful engorgement so far... I'm just taking it slowly and doing okay. Emotionally, I don't feel too bad either. Bottlefeeding is actually quite enjoyable and Ivy has taken to it pretty well. No poops for about a day and half though and then an almighty stinker! Bloody hell, breastmilk poo is lovely smelling in comparison! I think her little belly is just adjusting to the change in diet. Strangely enough, she seems to be hardly throwing up at all and she quite often had a little bit of sick after every feed when she was on the boob.

    ps its absolutely normal and probably quite healing to allow yourself a sense of grieving for the loss of expectation that you had. Great that you can rationalise it all as such but its ok to cry and let it go :hug: big loves x x x x x

    This really struck a chord, Sarah. I felt quite silly for grieving for it... but you're right. I've had a good cry and now let go. I'm proud of how far I got and I've learnt a lot for next time.