Birthday Moan

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  • Hi I had a birthday not that long ago.

    One of the ones that ends in 0 and spans more decades than you care to mention.

    i got a nice letter from my neuro saying that my MRI showed no neurological abnormalities (they never do). I got money from my Mum and bought alcohol and titanium hoop earrings that are quite beautiful. those were nice. I'd hate to have neurological abnormalities and have to deal with my neurologist more as a circumstance of that and my mother liked the earrings too.


    My husband kept saying we should do something special. I said no.

    He suggested swimming with seals and actually booked it. Then he asked me if I would organise the B&B and car hire for it.

    Before I did this I looked at the company and what was on offer and read reviews and cancelled.

    It would have been a great present but not with the company chosen. There was enough time to get our money back.


    I left it alone. Then he told me he was going to get me a ring. My fingers are tiny and no-one sells jewellery to fit me, but he had swiped my wedding ring and drawn round it. He said I should go down locally to check the size. I went to the local shop and they said the finger I was looking for rings for was a K wedding ring finger was a G!(baby size).

    I couldnt see anything I liked. I like large rings, I don't care if they glitter. I have long skinny fingers.

    Going into town wasnt much fun everything in the shops was bling or for getting engaged. I told him just to pick one himself he now knew what I liked and my size


    As the deadline drew close the idea of getting our beloved camper again.

    camper 1 - wings were rusted to buggery

    camper2 - not as described photos taken from a distance

    camper 3 - lovely, needed 2 grand. Turned down due to being tied to a completely broke student who was always in debt and at the edge of OD since entering higher education. Back out of sale and who is the bugger who has to call because i think it is only right to do that and not text as some would. He was reasonable about it but says he is taking his sellers fees out of the deposit as he cancelled the auction. As he would have listing fees anyway this is unreasonable, I'll have to see what we get back and fight it then.

    So, all grand plans to 'do something for my birthday' shot to buggery after I said I would rather not do anything, because to me this last year hasn't been one I want to celebrate. It's been a fu*king slog and a battle. Endless doctors/neuros/ENT appointments, scans, studying and exams and I still don't know if I'm totally safe for next year as I still have the 2 exams I deferred on medical grounds to sit. Everyone else is totting up points. Oh and it is OK to snap at me if he didn't hear some girl in the supermarket who was just being friendly by chatting at the till and I didnt step in in time, but if I cant take in anything because the whole supermarket is doing my head in and my tinnitus is like a dog whistle in my left ear and the left side of my head aches thats fine because, I should tell him 'because it wasn't like that this morning'.


    Sorry this is getting ranty.


    I really didn't want any grand things, but now that one after another they haven't transpired and the slog continues I feel more than a bit hacked off, especially as I am supposed to organise a fabulous party for his coming birthday.


    a stair climber was bought for both of us and I bet you next thing that will be my 'present' when history is written.

  • My 60th is looming, and nobody has mentioned it to me. As a Leo, i quite like a fuss, but i know i will be disappointed, again as always....
    I was hoping to have enough money to go see a mate in Germany, but daughter got in to dire straits, so the cash that i had saved, yet again, went to help her out....
    now, with opening a new shop in a couple of weeks, I doubt i will get any real time off to celebrate anyway.. SO, I will not mention it again, at all... and on my actual birthday i will cry at being an old fart,(but not a pensioner since the gov moved that on another 6 years...) and probably get drunk on my homemade Sloe Gin that i have saved for the day....

  • About why i dont bother with birthdays DM,plus so many have passed by ive lost the sense of excitement (if thats what youre supposed to feel.)

    Last birthday i celebrated was my 21st,the following year i didnt get to due to the run up to the Falklands.

    Ive not celebrated any since though i get the ritualised assault of cards and stuff,despite instructions and protests to the contrary on the basis of waste and commercial profiteering.

    Like Christmas they tend to invoke more family stress than theyre intended to.

    Who needs it/them.

  • About why i dont bother with birthdays DM,plus so many have passed by ive lost the sense of excitement (if thats what youre supposed to feel.)

    Last birthday i celebrated was my 21st,the following year i didnt get to due to the run up to the Falklands.

    Ive not celebrated any since though i get the ritualised assault of cards and stuff,despite instructions and protests to the contrary on the basis of waste and commercial profiteering.

    Like Christmas they tend to invoke more family stress than theyre intended to.

    Who needs it/them.


    Precisely, my parents had a newsagents. We sold commercialism under the guise of valentines cards, easter, christmas, birthdays etc....

    Put me right off.


    This year it was just that wow factor, my husband never does anything lavish for my birthday.

  • I actually don't like birthdays, I try very hard not to even acknowledge mine. My kids are well aware of this and just send a text. Maybe I'm weird, (Mind you, that could explain a lot of things)

  • Theres more people feel the same than you probably imagine but consumerland expects us to celebrate anything they can make money from and we get brow beaten by relatives friends and work colleagues that we must conform and celebrate...nope if its supposedly my special day ill do what i want on it and everyone can bog off and let me do so and mostly i do.

  • My children give me gifts but apart from that it is just another day for me! When I was 60 though I was visiting someone in the UK and one of my idiot children organised a wee soiree. I was fucking mortified! But! I did get a lot of cool stuff!

  • I'm not a party person.

    I really wish I was.


    We got married because Josh wanted to but did it on the cheap, with the minimum number of people there to make it legal.


    Josh wants a party for his 60th, no idea what to do. Half the freaking family don't talk to each other.

  • If I had the money I would send them all tickets and room bookings for the same hotel in Amsterdam.

    No explanation.


    The buggers would show up then and no-one would check to see if anyone else was coming.


    But short of winning the lottery, your way looks like a good one Marshlander.

  • My fiftieth was horrible. I had no contact with anyone on the day. My sixtieth was amazing. My kids organised a meal for me in a local restaurant. They and the grandchildren turned up for a lovely evening. This year, as I do most years, I spent the day alone and treated myself to a couple of films I wanted to see at the cinema. I had messages or phone calls from the family though and the pending visit to French Whale Fan to look forward to. That was sufficient and made the day special.


    We love you, Daisysmum. Let's hope the coming year turns out to be a better one.

  • I agree with Marshy,open invite, turn up if you want,no rsvp required then you wont slight anyone for not inviting any of them and if they dont arrive well that's not your problem.

    Alternatively go on a short cruise, :) the ship will usually arrange an impromptu birthday party.They did for the mother of a friend of mine who's birthday occurred while they were away and cost nothing extra and there was no family agro over not being invited.

  • I'd head off somewhere OS,just the two of you!:D My husband and I share the same birthday month,and as our birthdays are in winter,its the perfect time to go somewhere hot,and away from everyone else!lol

  • I agree with Marshy,open invite, turn up if you want,no rsvp required then you wont slight anyone for not inviting any of them and if they dont arrive well that's not your problem.

    Alternatively go on a short cruise, :) the ship will usually arrange an impromptu birthday party.They did for the mother of a friend of mine who's birthday occurred while they were away and cost nothing extra and there was no family agro over not being invited.

    Ah, I have a cruise issue.


    My mother took me on a cruise once.


    There was an age limit on the main swimming pool, so I was stuck in a toddler pool with my 2 mile badge while my mother sunbathed.


    I got lobster like sunburn.


    Post Traumatic (cruise)Ship Disorder ..... me..

  • My birthday moan (today kampaman) is I am sick to death of everytime I put the tv or news on its about bloody football!! surely I cant be the only bloke in the country that hates it?? I wish england would bloody lose so everyone will shut up about it.


    My sport is martial arts. now if they gave that the same coverage as football. I might be more interested! sorry to hyjack your thread by the way.;):(:cursing:

  • I wish england would bloody lose so everyone will shut up about it.

    Think twice about that , if England win then the drunken mobs in the pubs watching it will expend all their energy jumping up and down , hugging each other and doing silly dances.

    If on the other hand they lose then said mob stop cuddling each other and if the GAME has made them cross/angry or drunk enough thats when violence and potentially damage can become a worry (dont forget we have had more than 3 hots nights in succession so riot season is due upon us early this year).