We live in a society where any criticism of Islam is regularly countered with cries of "Islamophobia!" - and often the anti-Muslim backlashes are racist and motivated by lies being spread in social media.
We often get told how most Muslims just want to live their lives etc. and I agree that they do - at least that's my experience as I have met and worked and been friends with many people from Asia - and while I would never wish anyone harm, it does seem there's a fear of condemning some cultural aspects because people are scared of being branded racist.
There was recently a British poll saying that half of Muslims say homosexuality should be illegal.
There is clearly something wrong here.
I absolutely believe we have a duty to respect our fellow humans and allow them agency over their lives -- and it would be wrong to deny anyone their rights to self expression -- but in some ways it's like we're dealing with a culture that hasn't caught up with our values.
Basically I'm not sure how it can be untangled, because it seems that the only people willing to address it are racist thugs with loud voices rather than anyone with any rational sense.