I’m worn out. My brother is a recovering heroine addict (again) and has no money. He’s spent most of his adult life addicted to drugs and/or alcohol and can’t stick a job or run his online shop either. He’s getting help now but I’m getting worn out propping him up. My husband has traits of Asperger’s and spends most of his time st work or on a train (not to go anywhere he just likes being on a train) or shut away tinkering on computers. He doesn’t do much round the house. He doesn’t respect my schedule and expects me to fit in with his needs. I’ve always given him loads of support for his solitary hobbies and fill my time with my own stuff which he complains uses up “family time”. On a number of occasions I’ve been slightly late home from a hobby or work and he accuses me of sleeping with other men. My best friends have become busy and remote and I’m the only one who puts energy into any arrangements. I was bullied in a previous job which I left because I was in danger (nobody listened, despite reporting it in a meeting). I’m rebuilding my life and my new work is great now butI’m at the end of my tether. Nobody gives a shit about my needs and I’m expected to be this column of perfect marble dispensing divine energy, love and forgiveness no matter what. I can’t cope anymore. I told my hubby I’d leave if he didn’t change his behaviour and support me more. He trashes me to his friends about some decisions I make and faults me for things I can’t do anything about and doesn’t take responsibility for many actions. I’m out of gas.