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  • So long story cut short. My long life best friend is getting married and I'm his best man. We touched each others willies a few times when we were younger but nothing serious. We got very drunk the other night and he suggested putting porn on which we have done a few times, when he clicked on the search bar a previous website popped up that I had viewed. It was basically shemales with large willies. Anyway we spoke about it and he asked if I'd fancy him in a dress and wig and it ended up getting very heated and ended in us spending a few hours experimenting. How do I not let this break our friendship?

  • It's not a piss take its 100% real! It's my first post because I didn't think about this till it happened. That's why I googled sexuality forum lol x


    It's usual to join these forums with a hello message, but no matter...


    Reading your post, I don't see anything to break your long relationship... You've known him for years, you were both very drunk, you had some fun together.. so what? You were both willing participants, and clearly have similar interests.. what's not to like?


    Maybe it can't happen again, once he's married... that's down to your (both of you) moral compass to decide.... If you (jointly) don't feel right doing it again, then don't.. just keep it as a happy shared secret memory...

  • The one thing to remember above anything else is dont put it in the best mans speech.


    ROFL


    So long story cut short. My long life best friend is getting married and I'm his best man. We touched each others willies a few times when we were younger but nothing serious. We got very drunk the other night and he suggested putting porn on which we have done a few times, when he clicked on the search bar a previous website popped up that I had viewed. It was basically shemales with large willies. Anyway we spoke about it and he asked if I'd fancy him in a dress and wig and it ended up getting very heated and ended in us spending a few hours experimenting. How do I not let this break our friendship?


    Why would it break your friendship? ..if youre both cool about what happened and neither of you see it as a big deal then dont make it an issue.Your friend does perhaps need to sort out his priorities whether he wishes to be loyally married to his future wife or if hes periodically going to go off looking for man sex when he feels.


    I had a similar sex relationship with a bi male friend for some time but h.he was 23 (I was 34) and his primary dream and need was for a family and children and when he got engsged snd married that was the end of our sexual relationship. He drew a line under it and so did i as i didnt want it to spoil his marriage or my friendship with him or his wife.
    18 yesrs later we're still friends though dont see much of esch other and he has a teenage daughter and is very happy and hes never strsyed from his straight lifestyle since he married.


    You should just accept thats likely to be the scenario between you and your friend and if hes serious about his upcoming marriage you should in fsirness avoid putting pressure on him that might question that choice hes made.
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    It does though seem to me he hss issues about his own sexuaity that he needs to sort out and decide what he does want before he mskes a mess of his or his gf's life. If hes serious and marries then its in your interest and his to not ever repeat what occurrrd recently between you.....and stay friends....if he feels he can call on you for sex outside his marriage then you should put some distance between your friendship and make it clear its not going to happen...for the sake of his marriage and your sanity.Falling for someone you cant ever fully have will be a lasting torment if you dont let it go now.

  • I do wonder why he is getting married when he wants to wear dresses and a wig and have his male friend touch his dick, people always us the line 'I was drunk' blah, blah, I think he needs to get honest about who he is, might save a lot of pain down the road.

  • it sounds like the chap might have some nascent tendencies emerging.
    it would be sensible to understand this new direction in his life
    before he makes any serious emotional commitments
    which might entangle them both in a paradigm that is not best for them both
    it needs to be seriously discussed with his partner
    it should not be conceiled
    otherwise one partner just got caught up in a bait and switch
    which can't end well

  • I agree with those who have suggested that he really ought to sort out what he wants before he goes ahead with the wedding. Rushing into marriage before he has sorted out who he is and having sex with someone else behind his fiancée's back is unfair to both of them. I have a gold medal and a history of mental illness related to that field of endeavour. However, you didn't ask about that. I don't see why your friendship needs to be damaged by this. Probably best to remember that what happens in Dave's house stays in Dave's house. Perhaps what you can do as his friend is to support him make the best of whatever decision he takes.

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  • Is the guy marrying a female?If so,does she know he's bi?Because if she does'nt,I think if I were the guy,I'd have to be honest and fess up before the wedding.It'll only end in tears.
    Whether he's marrying a male or female,is'nt relevant though.The fact is,he's been unfaithful,and that in itself,is a worry.I would'nt like to be his partner he is about to marry.Not a great way to start a marriage.No one knows someone 100%,but I would like to think the guy I was about to marry was loyal and trustworthy.It might of been "abit of fun"that night,but did either of you consider his partner's feelings?Would you like the same thing done to you?
    If I was the guy,however heartbreaking it would be for his partner,I'd call the wedding off.
    Better to have some fun with someone with NO commitments.That way,no one gets hurt.

  • I'm just waiting for the wife, best man confession. Then the sequel, husband, best man, wife. Is it legal to marry two men in Europe?
    I shouldn't comment. It happened. What happened I would blame on circumstances and the alcohol. If it's any deep seated lust for the same sex. Drag your mate away from the church and go get a place together. Marriage shouldn't be on the cards for either of them.

  • Thanks for all the comments, and apologies for not saying hello before my post. Haven't used a site this before and jumped in. So hello to everyone :) thanks for the advice and we have met up since and it wasnt awkward, said his fiance was too important to lose which I agreed, it's up to him if he tells her but I've left that up to him. I've thought about it loads and feel bad but also like that I found myself a bit more and am hoping to continue that. thanks again x

  • I do wonder why he is getting married when he wants to wear dresses and a wig and have his male friend touch his dick, people always us the line 'I was drunk' blah, blah, I think he needs to get honest about who he is, might save a lot of pain down the road.


    I'm pretty sure he does love her and if by the time the wedding got close enough I would seriously advise him to be honest with the right people x