My other question is why have a child if you can't afford too?
So...,....if only the ones who can afford a child should have children.
It's all very well being idealistic about this, but unfortunately the ones who suffer are the children themselves ... love don't provide warm blankets, a roof and healthy food - and sadly the state doesn't do a very good job of it either. Yeah get angry about that, but not at the expense of a hungry child!
Having a child ain't quite the same as getting a telly on finance or booking a fancy foreign holiday (and yeah, poor people should be allowed those too) - it's about a living, breathing human being - a mouth to feed and one of the biggest responsibilities anyone can ever take on.
It doesn't matter if you're rich or poor, it's a lifetime commitment ... and it's a commitment that requires both financial stability AND a loving, stable environment with healthy-minded parents.
Too many people treat it all too lightly. So do we say "hold on, are you sure you're ready for this?", or do we say "It's OK Luv, follow your hormones and we'll pick up the pieces when it all goes tits up"?
Such a materialist culture as we have creates a very disturbing idea of who can apparently afford children....funny cos some of the happiest children I've ever seen are in some of the poorest countries, but with that mind set they wouldn't even be alive......
I seem to remember back in February you expressing serious doubts about having the child, and when I challenged the decision you defended yourself, vehemently staying how stable your circumstances were and how your financial security was almost a certainty.
Thing is, I'm sure most people want the best for you and your child, as do I - and I certainly don't think any child should be punished for the sins of their parents.
But it does beg a very important question that isn't just about you, it's about the amount of people believing things will somehow sort themselves out, even when all the alarm bells are saying otherwise.