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  • After watching one too many documentaries on Netflix, I decided two weeks ago, it was time to be vegetarian.


    But by jove, people love to complain.
    Do you want some? Oh, you can't eat that. What about...? Can't eat that either. Basically I just eat the vegetables and potatoes.


    My issue is that I also refrain from wheat [IBS] and don't eat any refined sugar and no processed foods.


    Which for everyone is a nightmare. I have tried google, but no wheat, meat & sugar is a hard diet!


    I just need to hear someone finally say, yes, it is a good thing. Keep going, because I get no support here.

  • Yes it's a good thing, keep going! :D


    The first time I attempted vegetarianism I was 16 years old and still living at home - my mum was like "While you live under my roof you'll eat what you're given!" :mad: So, I do understand what it's like to be in an unsupportive environment.


    A few years later my sister went veggie and my mum's attitude had changed, but I'd given up by then and didn't try again for a long time.


    When I finally committed properly I was in a relationship with a meateater, and while she could cope with the basic stuff, any attempts to eat *seriously* healthy were met with scorn. I think my food habits were so far from the mainstream that she got frustrated knowing what to cook for me ... and back then I was pretty useless in the kitchen. Oh, and the animal rights arguments - she didn't like those at all :D


    Anyway, I've heard of loads of people taking flack for going veggie - worse than I ever got, so it's certainly not easy when other people are in the picture. Once people realise you're serious they'll start to respect you a little, the jokes will eventually wear thin and people will accept your choices more and more - before you know it they won't even mention it.


    Nowadays I'm often pleasantly surprised at how accommodating meateaters can be when dealing with my awkwardness.

  • 20 odd years later & still the occasional comment, yes it's a drag.


    You're doing a good thing for animals & for yourself. I have found that once one person in a circle decides to change their diet many others feel threatened but a few actually start to wonder & may change as well, possibly not full-time but at least sometimes.


    You will find eating out a bitch, head to small whole-food cafes.
    Eating in is simple, pick a veggy cookbook & you're spoilt for choice. My first one is the size of 2 phone directories & still my most used, it has simple things in it often converted from more traditional meals. Think lasagna or any other pasta meal with veg instead of meat, chuck in any veg you fancy & just make a nice sauce.


    How accommodating people are depends on how much they care for you. Once they get over their initial wariness that is.

  • It`ll get easier i promise! I`m vegan and yeast free and manage fine it just takes a bit of time to get your head round it....soon you`ll not feel so overwhelmed. Take yourself off to the country for the day and look a cow in the eye and you`ll know you`ve made the right decision :D

  • It's been 18 years for me, and people still make snide remarks, but I just try to ignore them.
    The worst thing is that it's my parents, sister and in-laws who are the ones who still make these comments, or don't check if something is veggie or not, but we don't see them too often so I can put up with it.


    Keep up the good work :)

  • Thanks everyone, that's enough positive energy to make it for another week or two!


    Today I enjoyed broccoli, green beans, macaroni cheese and potatoes.


    At least there was something to eat. I've bought a juicer today, so I should be able to find some awesome things to eat now.

  • I have been vegetarian for over 30 years and vegan for about 18. It gets easier as you transition from it being diet to being a lifestyle. As they realize it's not a fad, family will likely get used to it, and might even be able to cook for you without having to ask what you do and don't eat. Friends are easier to deal with: if they aren't accepting, they don't have to be friends any more.


    It does help to seek out others who share similar views and lifestyle. For several years, I lived in a community where vegan community potluck dinners were common and normal. Now I live in a community where the about the only vegan option on a restaurant menu is french fries (chips) and a vegetable is only available on request, provided you like canned peas. But it's been a part of who I am for long enough that it just means I don't eat out much.

  • Diet? I stopped digesting years ago. About the same time I made a new years resolution, to never make a new years resolution again. It's the only one I've ever kept. My nice is claiming she will "join me" in the new year. Bless.


    Going to the farm shop today to top up on fresh veg.


    I agree with the previous comment. Friends who don't support you, needn't be friends.


    My family are another story for the last 5 years of not eating wheat, only ONCE had someone remembered to get me something for desert. And only twice in 18 months of not eating sugar has any of them had a drink without sugar. So now I pack supplies to visit them.


    Still going, went Wimpy yesterday, would've normally had a quarter pounder. The manager looked concerned!

  • The food labelling makes things easier, there is choice in restaurants now, people are concerned about the health benefits rather than just ridiculing you... Yup much easier now.

  • The food labelling makes things easier, there is choice in restaurants now, people are concerned about the health benefits rather than just ridiculing you... Yup much easier now.


    I was thinking more along the lines of personal will power, but is certainly is easier when eating out.
    If people were truly concerned about the health benefits, then they'd already be vegetarian (or is that what you meant?)

  • Indeed, and I've been having a jolly time trying out new things, and explaining to my family - that of course the dinner you served was boring, you have me a roast without meat [roast potato, carrot, Yorkshire, no gravy]


    I'm feeling good for it, I don't miss it, I've been reading about protein and [further] realise I don't need it. I shan't be going back any-time soon. It's been over 3 months and not once have I felt bad since starting this thread.


    Power to the veg!

  • 9 months on I'm still vegetarian (apart from an accidential bite of a meat filled pasty!)


    I watched Cowspiracy three days ago. It cannot be unseen.


    No baby calf growth formula has passed my mouth since, even shaped as delicious cheese. Three days no cheese - an achievement unto itself.
    I am still eating honey. I don't eat artificial sugars so I'm working on it. I will purchase organic and ethical honey (please dont shatter my ilusion!)


    Still not eating refined sugar or processed foods, I'm finding it hard, as most 'food' is laden with chemical BS. I can't even look at fruit/veg from Spain without getting annoyed.


    More support needed!
    I read the sticky, currently too scared to watch anything else!

  • We're going to get you :reddevil:


    Seriously though 9 months is great - and Violife cheese can be bought in Tesco and, although not the same taste exactly, is a fairly good approximation in small amounts ... better off without it though as it's still junk food and it does set the cravings off.


    If you're still in Essex, The Railway Hotel in Southend does amazing vegan food (including pizza). A bit of a way to travel but oh so worth it.

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  • My worst accidental bite was a baked potato that the filling had been removed from and filled with meat then topped with potato & cheese (back when I wasn't vegan). It was at a work do where my company were trying to impress another company & I was the tech liaison, I immediately spat it all out in front of the customers while retching. my boss was horrified but they still bought from us.

  • My worst accidental bite was a baked potato that the filling had been removed from and filled with meat then topped with potato & cheese (back when I wasn't vegan). It was at a work do where my company were trying to impress another company & I was the tech liaison, I immediately spat it all out in front of the customers while retching. my boss was horrified but they still bought from us.


    OMG.


    That is both hilarious and disgusting.

  • Are you still a vege? I love it. I've even got my Nan on board (with my vegetarianism) now. When I was a kid she was convinced I should be eating meat so she hid bits of meat products under other things, like mash potatoes or vegetables. I always found it. It's taken years but now she even prepares my meal on a different bit of the worktop well away from the meaty things. Bless her. She's a legend.


    What's this about not needing protein? Did I read that right? I consume loaddddssss of protein, all for my gunz of course (yes yes Internet police, I mean the ones on my arms!)


    My supposedly best mate once tricked me into eating some rice crispy cake thing she'd made by telling me that she used a vegetarian marshmallow mix. I took one bite, said it tasted too much like real marshmallow, then she started laughing. I spat it out all over her, swore at her a lot, and drove off in a huff. Oh yes. Mature response there. I was livid! She'll never dare do that again...

  • My supposedly best mate once tricked me into eating some rice crispy cake thing she'd made by telling me that she used a vegetarian marshmallow mix. I took one bite, said it tasted too much like real marshmallow, then she started laughing. I spat it out all over her, swore at her a lot, and drove off in a huff. Oh yes. Mature response there. I was livid! She'll never dare do that again...

    I would go absolutely spare if someone did that to me. :eek:

  • Been a vegetarian all my life and can honestly say it has never posed an issue for me. Buy fresh, cook everything myself don't buy processed food. Healthy wait and more energy than people half my age a lot of the time. Shopping at local market way cheaper than corporate supermarkets too.

  • For years I have fielded questions about my diet, it has actually led to fall-outs with people at times. One night at work my plate consisted of baby-spinach, avocado, olives, beetroot, and a 5-bean mix. This guy was feigning throwing up on my plate, saying it looked like puke, that I was gay eating that sort of stuff. Was he right? Did I make any comment about the take-away burger and chips he had just had? Would I have been right to smash my plate into his taste buds? Dunno, but it felt good, hee-hee :insane:


    Disclaimer: I don't do things like that anymore x x x x x x


    Good on ya Millie, I bet you feel better all over for your decision :hippy:

  • I've lost count of the stupid and pointless questions directed at me over the last 30 odd years.


    A favourite of a particular family member was 'how about some wafer fin am' .....


    I use this as an excuse not to bother seeing them anymore and told them why.


    I last ate animal parts in 1983. It was not very easy back then and I seldom went without when we were out socialising. Even fries etc... often get cooked in with scampi and nuggets.
    I've only had one person trick me (just for a laugh they said) which backfired badly on them as I can induce projectile vomiting at will :)
    I realised before biting into it as the smell,look,and so forth is completely different from anything Veg or Vegan. (pasty) Hence just prior to me calling environmental health they were suspended without pay and eventually sacked. A little difficult for me as I knew the chef responsible but fuck em! Play adult games then you deal with it like an adult.
    They also lost their home (staff accommodation) :)



    A bit harsh I hear some say.... tuff shit I say :)


    Have fun ....Frame.