How to protect yourself from negativity

  • Hi everyone, not sure where to put this....
    Soooo someone has come into my life who is extremely negative, very well disguised but I always see through people.... bonus of being an empath [emoji85] sooo I can't just walk out of this persons life.
    How can I protect myself?

  • Tell em you don't like their negativity and to sod off....



    To add to this what I mean is say to them look I don't like your negativity and I don't want your negativity around me if you're going to be negative do not come around me and be negative be negative somewhere else, if that doesn't work then tell them to sod off [emoji1360]

    Those Mountains that you're carrying, you were only supposed to climb.

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  • The most simple way of protecting yourself from negativity is by being positive and if through that positivity you can not change what you deam as negative around you,then you must get rid of it from your reality. it will burn up your energy otherwise.
    You have probably only got one go on this merry-go-round so make it a happy ride I say :D


    Another way of looking at this is that all experiences are positive as they help create who we are and even if that experience is a negative one,we will learn from it and further ourselves and our believes in who we are therefore creating a better us,so the long and short is that all negative experiences are actually positive proving that negativity does not exist-I think :insane:

  • The most simple way of protecting yourself from negativity is by being positive and if through that positivity you can not change what you deam as negative around you,then you must get rid of it from your reality. it will burn up your energy otherwise.
    You have probably only got one go on this merry-go-round so make it a happy ride I say :D


    Another way of looking at this is that all experiences are positive as they help create who we are and even if that experience is a negative one,we will learn from it and further ourselves and our believes in who we are therefore creating a better us,so the long and short is that all negative experiences are actually positive proving that negativity does not exist-I think :insane:


    How you think of yourself is so important :hippy:

  • Hugely. If you can become good in your own skin and get to know yourself well enough,you learn what you like and dont like and soon enough you know what action to take when certain situations come along.
    I very rarely get stressed,because I know the warning signs of it arriving and know what situations to deal with by taking a nice walk with nature to help me come up with the right decisions.
    Never respond in anger and always think about your actions :thumbup:

  • I'm completely immune to other peoples negativity, it goes completely over my head. The down side to it is that some people think I'm a bit emotionless sometimes. The upside - I get invited to a lot of parties!
    I see a difference between empathy and someone clouding my sun so I'm just gonna carry on the way I am.

    Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up on your dreams and ideals, wrinkles the soul.

  • I avoid negative people as they are mostly losers and do tend to piss me off but saying that, a lot of people can easily piss me off anyway which is why I prefer my dogs company nowadays.

  • I have a few friends that can be depressinly depressive, one in particular seems to suck ya soul as she enters the room , never say 'how are you?' because she WILL answer and it will not be good , from wrong shopping right up the dead people are saying bad things to her....., other end of the scale are a few overly cheerful ones to whom i often feel the need to say 'please do not let my hospitality delay you upon your travels ' :angel:

  • sister in law is a negative person, she never says anything good to someone when she can say something nasty. but what do you expect when someone has been a social worker most of their adult life? she's now retired but the attitude still persists. someone's going to clock her one one day!!

  • Negative people, they just drain me, they are like vampires or something, after being around them I just feel drained. I think a T-shirt with 'Negative folk: F**k' off would be better :)

  • If you feel like that,just make your excuses straight away and leave. If something makes you unhappy,then make yourself happy as soon as you can by doing what is needed,even if you have to just walk away. I have done this on many occassions. xx

  • If you feel like that,just make your excuses straight away and leave. If something makes you unhappy,then make yourself happy as soon as you can by doing what is needed,even if you have to just walk away. I have done this on many occassions. xx


    That's good when you can walk away. Sometimes you can't.
    We have a neighbour who is always negative about everything. The other day coming home on the bus, she saw me and sat on the seat in front, so she could lean over the back and engage in how the world was treating her. As I couldn't escape on a crowded bus, every time she moaned about something I replied with something positive she had to look forward to, like summer is coming, and warmer weather, and she would be able to bike ride again, and go explore places with her free bus ticket; all kinds of everyday stuff.
    It was kind of hard work, but by the end of our journey (20 ruddy minutes!) she was actually smiling a bit, and had quit giving me the hard-luck stories. I felt better too; real glad I wasn't saddled with someone like that for 24/7!

  • I work with someone who is very negative most, if not all of the time.I just hit her with positives all the time or...challenge her thoughts!:D You need to rise above it LB,and not allow people's crappy moods affect you.Next time this lady starts her whinging,just say something like "Ah do you mind if we keep the convo light?I'm actually having a really nice day today"!
    I'm not perfect but I do like to spend my days feeling positive.It does'nt always happen but what I've found is people don't actually like positive people that much,if they're miserable buggers themselves.They'll do anything to try and sap your positivity from you.

  • I avoid negative people as they are mostly losers and do tend to piss me off but saying that, a lot of people can easily piss me off anyway which is why I prefer my dogs company nowadays.


    Actually, I was thinking a good way to avoid negativity might be to become a dog...... bit of a genetic stumbling block that one.


    In some epilepsy forums that I lurk about there is a very clear divide. It doesn't really matter how severe/well controlled the condition is; some people seem to decide that they suffer and it becomes the all-encompassing thing that prevents them trying anything others think 'well sod all this for a lark, I've got a life to get on with'.


    There is one woman posts these dreadful poems, that are really negative. I used to look at the thread hoping she had cheered up. I stopped.


    One guy I'm friendly with has had three lots of neurosurgery, lost count of how many med combos he has been on, has trained as an electrician, and is now training as a pathology technician. Really upbeat guy who brought his own PET scan into one of his courses.


    I guess I'm coming over as really unsympathetic, but I just don't get it.


    I'm feeling really negative just now so I've shut myself away in my room, rather than inflict myself on the general public (and one specific lecturer whom I may not be able to remain civil to). Some of the negativity has come out in my posts, I hope you can choose to ignore it if it has if it has accidentally caught anyone a glancing blow - sorry.

  • Sing your head off,be outrageously silly and theatrical,talk to yourself in silly voices and dont stop when they protest.If nothing else it keeps you in a whacky good mood and pisses them off. :D I iz a hexpert at pissing off negative peepul.


    Update...just noticed this is another old topic but hey ho... the medicine still works :reddevil:

  • I Have Many Ways Of Doing This ...Because Yes..Sadly There Be Soooo Much Bad Vibed Peeps And There Thinking Thoughts Etc And Bad Vibed Negativity Things Out There Sadly:(


    And It Be Sooooo Easy To Let That In Your Head..Mind..Body..Spirit Which Then You End Up Carrying Them Around In There With You And Be Letting Them And That Change You "Meaning" You Think And Feel Different And You Become Sad..Drained..Heavy...And Even Can Become Not The Real You....Nope Nada No...It Be Very Bad Mojo And You Defo Need To Protect Yourself And Your Heart Mind Body Spirit From Both "Them And The Bad Mojo"


    So I Have Many Different Ways.
    Firsrly I Avoid .Turn My Back And Walk Away From These People ..Or Things Etc ...If I Have Seeked And Found Who They Be And .Are.
    I Also Usually Take Myself Of To My Forest To Be Close With Nature And Let The Earth Trees And Power Clean Me Of This...Or Stand Barefoot In My Garden And Feel The Earth Below My Feet And Pull Natures Healing Up Through My Feet ..Feeling The Warmth ..Power ..Peace Rise Through Me From My Tippy Toes To My Finger Tips As The Earth Energy Cleanses My Mind Body Heart Spirit As She Floods Me With Love And Calmness And Peace ..
    And I Always Put Rose Petals And Flower Petals In My Bath Or Water ..As I Bathe And Wash Myself As There Oils Cleanse Your Spirit And Poisens Of Mans Minds And Air ..
    Also You Can Use ..Epsom Salts In Water As That To Is A Good Way Of Cleansin Auras I Heard Many Englisg Peeps Do This ...But I Only Use Natural Nature To Heal ..Cleanse Protect Me Etc Etc Etc All Things And All Bad Mojo Peeps :))